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Perspective – scary vs. not so scary situations 

The advantage of having been through really difficult times and having survived them: things that many people might consider scary or difficult do not even register on the scale.

Let me explain. Next week is my PhD viva, a 2-hour plus oral exam about my thesis, the culmination of 3 years works, at the end of which I will hopefully be calling myself Dr. Two examiners, leading researchers in my field, will be grilling me on all sorts of unpredictable topics and potentially pointing out any number of flaws in my work. Lots of people have been asking me why I’m so calm and not freaking out.

Honestly- of course I want to do well, and it would suck if they didn’t like my work, but compared to other situations, this one is not scary.

– admitting yourself to a psychiatric hospital, where you bear your soul every day in group therapy, that’s scary (but also one of the best decisions I’ve ever made)

– making a formal complaint about a senior, well respected academic, and recounting exact details to two other senior academics, that’s terrifying

and lastly

– really truly believing that you will never get better (I was wrong)

I could go on, but I think you get the idea. I’m not saying it’s great to experience these things, but sometimes it’s good to remember what you’ve survived. It puts things into perspective.


One comment on “Perspective – scary vs. not so scary situations 

  1. mindovermediablog
    March 26, 2016

    Hey, that was really helpful


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